Ram Dass wrote a wonderful, simple book for helping professionals entitled “How Can I Help?” in which he addresses the desire of the “helper” to sometimes help too much, or in the way they think to be best, but not a way that actually serves the greater good.The simple question “How Can I Help?” speaks to discerning the felt need of the person or situation.
Interestingly, an article in Forbes Magazine says this can be the worst question to ask, and maybe in business, where hidden agendas are rife, it opens more questions than those it answers. But in this matter of spiritual leadership, I think it really is a good place to start.
One thing I know for sure is that I am fortunate. I have been a sober person in AA for many years now, and I simply cannot guarantee my continued sanity or sobriety if I become entangled for long with things that do not work for me ethically.
I MUST listen to my gut… I would suggest we all actually must.
Daniel Golemen, PhD, who coined the concept of Emotional Intelligence, suggests, in his new book,” Focus” that we each engage three areas when we enter a situation: 1) What we are good at doing 2) Personal emotional engagement 3) Our own inner ethical sense.
We attempt to ignore any of these at our peril.
I actually learned this the hard way…
Hence- a Sabbatical
I am not sure what works. That is part of what a sabbatical is about. Fortunately, I don’t have to know. I am listening right now.
How can I help?
SAVE THE DATE- We will be taking reservations for our next NYC Gathering
Topic: “In Her Voice- The Female Voice of God” to be held at TANK, just off Times Square on Sunday evening, October 19th at 9 pm.