Big Mistake on Page Fifty-nine!!!

I wrote a book- The Gateways- The Wisdom of 12-Step Spirituality Dynamic Practices that Work

It took me 3 full years to write and format the book, and a large investment of money, hours and hours of time, passion, heart, soul and hard work…major hard work.

My book was picked up by a wonderful publisher, and launched in September of 2016. What an exciting time that was!!  I was a nervous wreck and had a panic attack trying to figure out how to do a podcast.

The Gateways is not targeted at people recovering from addiction so much as those of us who missed some developmental steps along the way, and are always trying to fill those in.  It does use the wisdom of the 12-Steps as a wonderful infrastructure/ladder for anchoring our internal structures. My first inspiration in this idea came from my years of studying Early Childhood Education, and the trailblazing work in developmental psychology, of Jean Piaget, and I have been working with these ideas ever since.  You see, I am one of those people who had some filling-in of the infrastructure to accomplish in order for me to really contribute.  So this book is about tools I used to support my journey home…to myself, in the hope that some of those will work for you too.

I have received many interesting comments and questions about The Gateways over this year,  but one that really woke me up was from someone who lit into a list of typos she found…some of which were actually typos and some that were not.

But one of them really bothered/bothers me. One of my absolutely favorite quotes is MIS-ATTRIBUTED on Page 59!! I have no idea how this slid by our myriad edits, but the truth is, it happened.

I will tell you what it is in a second, but this whole situation has really brought forth so much great learning for me…and here is the big take away:

Shame is toxic, freaking out over mistakes …especially typos- is ridiculous, and sometimes pointing out these things allows others to do as we have done…BE HUMAN!! Also, one of my favorite lessons from the wise ones in my life is this: “We grow stronger in the broken places.”

So how about that? Where do you feel broken and maybe unable to just say it, admit it, even flaunt it? What are you hiding about yourself because you feel that if that secret you are carrying were known, you would lose credibility or love or approval?

The funny thing is that my book is so full of Inter-spiritual, psycho-spiritual tools and wisdom and humor and beauty…and the promotion of it has in some ways almost made me forget the miracle of my giving birth to it!!  So I am glad this “mistake” conversation arose!!

The challenge of creating any thesis that pushes the conversation about spirituality/religion, psychology/holistic healing forward, is that every new idea threatens the status quo.  But thank God for the dreamers and visionaries!! We need to keep moving and to live the lives WE are created to live…not a carbon copy of somebody else’s dream.

And creating can be messy! Actually, it is by definition -birthing something out of nothing- and that is…well, MESSY!!

So as this very strange and challenging year draws to a close, my wish for you…for all of you- is to make LOTS OF MISTAKES in the service of a Big Vision.  And while you are creating, see what grows stronger in that place where the break happened…the one where you got fired, or broke up with somebody or …you know …the big stuff we all deal with in life. But really…the VISION is the thing…Jump into the vision!!! We so need your beautiful voice. Let me say this again: WE NEED YOUR VOICE!!!

Ready for the quote?  It is, as I have said, one of my FAVORITES!!! It is by T.S. Eliot, NOT W.H. Auden Whew…Both great writers…but this one is by Mr. Eliot…in the green colored box at the bottom right of Page 59…final quote of three:

“We shall not cease from exploration, and in the end of all our exploring we will arrive where we started and know the place for the first time.”

Isn’t that so fantastic? It really speaks to the spiral growth we engage as we journey deeper into the not obvious truths. And it affirms the journey of exploration while at the same time, reminding us that the real journey is home…to ourselves, and to truths hidden in plain sight. Just LOVE this idea!!

I honestly thank the person who took the time to go through my work so carefully and point this HUGE mis- attribution to me. I am honored that they are interested enough in the work to look for inconsistencies, and then to help me to think about these things.

Happy New Year T.R.I.B.E. friends and fellow travelers. Please check out the work on My plan is to create a rich and inspirational resource for you at that address. As Ram Dass reminds us “We are all just walking each other home.”

So happy to be on that journey with you.

With love,